All my friends have been telling me im “the planner”.
So whenever people want to get together, or plan something whether its a big outing, party or just a casual dinner - I automatically get labled as “the planner”.
No thanks. Sure, I like to see my friends so I do put effort into calling people and making follow ups but dont assume its my job. I dont mind getting people together but dont plan events yourself and then leave me to call 20 something people. It sucks putting events together. Even when you put all the information on facebook/email/text w.e people act retarded and ask you the same questions that are already clearly answered if they would just READ THE DAMN EVENT PAGE. So its not always fun putting stuff together - my phone gets blown up all the time.
People also like to place the blame on me when certain people dont get invited or when the time/date/place doesnt suit them. Most of the time I dont pick any of those, I just hit up people to let them know wassap. “Oh… so-and-so didnt come cause you didnt invite them, so they were feeling bad” FUCK THAT. Im not the only person going, its never “my thing” so if you want certain ppl to come YOU invite them. And when a place is picked (cause everyone either agreed or didnt state any opinion) then everyone wants to complain about it later. SCREW YOU GUYS.
Another thing that pisses me off is when people are really excited and say “oh hey we should do this… or we should go there..we should deff plan it” Then we (hah, I mean I) plan it out and suddenly NO ONE wants to do it or are all hesitant. Ok whatthefuk.
And when friends hit you up out of no where and say “hey I wanna do this - tell everyone and make it happen”. HAHA you funny. You wanna do it, you wanna see people, you wanna go out?? You got a phone, if you want to see YOUR friends then please CALL THEM. “But your the planner…” OR NOT.
Basically, I never asked to be “the planner” for anybody. So dont try and make me feel guilty or put me on the spot when you wanna plan something, go somewhere, see some people. I also dont appreciate people telling me their plans didnt work out because I didnt call people for them. Recently I have people basically saying “oh we wanted to go to this place but you didnt plan it so we didnt go”.
Its not like im not busy on my own ish either. Difference is, If I want to see people I make that effort myself to make it happen.
I also dont appreciate when people say “hey we need to hang out, I havent seen you in so long!” etc. etc. And I reply “Yeah, deff hit me up when your free”. Then they wanna blame me later saying I never hit them up. Well they never sent me word or hit me up since then either so kiss my ass. Plus most of the time Im the one calling them out with actual dates but they seem to forget that when they think that one “omg we need to hang out” msg makes up for it. So again, Kiss my ass with those shitty excuses.
I didnt mind so much before, but now I guess im honestly just really tired of it. I love seeing my friends and I dont mind helping get people together - but dont take advantage of that and leave it all up to me to make it happen or blame me when it doesnt go the way you want. So maybe for now i’ll just stop doing it. Just let people hit me up. Im NOT anybodys personal planner.
(just receives a text about going out tomorrow) ::smiles:: YUP. SO MUCH EASIER
